Tips on managing grief

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Tips on managing grief

Tips on managing grief

Grief is how humans respond when experiencing loss.

It is a normal, natural, and inevitable response to loss and can affect every part of a  person’s life.  It can seem like a roller coaster with good days and then bad days.

Grief allows you to gradually adjust to the loss – and the changes that the loss brings.  It helps you to seek a way forward without the person who has passed away.

Everyone’s experience of grief is different.  There is no right or wrong way to experience grief.  It is a very individual experience.

Its feelings may be intensely felt and can be described as anxiety, anger, disbelief, sadness, panic, numbness and even relief.

Some people are fearful that they may lose their personal connection or memory of the person who has passed away.  Some may feel disloyal if they start to enjoy activities.

Also people can feel confused and unable to concentrate, or they may feel that they are never going to be able to get over the loss or move on with their lives.

There may also be some physical reactions to grief such as lethargy, loss of appetite, nausea, and pain. These symptoms need to be checked to ensure that they are not related to illness.

Self-care can be neglected and dependency on alcohol or drugs can be potentially harmful.  Grieving people can also lose contact with their spiritual beliefs.

Just as there is no ‘correct’ way to grieve, there is no ‘right’ period of time for grieving.  Eventually though, life will again have meaning.

Some prefer to express their grief privately while others may express publicly how they are feeling.  Some people prefer to talk to and want to express their feelings while others are reluctant to talk.  Even individual members of the same family or group can react differently, and their reactions need to be respected.

Grief is an unknown journey which cannot be planned or controlled.

Some tips on managing grief include:

  • Don’t make big decisions too soon
  • Create a memorial to honour the person you have lost
  • Continue the relationship with the person who has passed away
  • Allow space to have private thoughts and special time with the
    person
  • Develop your own way to honour or spend time with the person
  • Exercise
  • Continue with your religious or spiritual beliefs
  • Read about how others manage their grief
  • Try meditation, massage, or aromatherapy
  • Share your feelings with others
  • Allow others to help you
  • Share memories and feelings with family and friends
  • Try to enjoy things as well as grieving
  • Join a support group
  • Talk with a counsellor

Exercise

A natural stress buster that can help to work off anxiety and muscle tension. Regular exercise aids in giving a better outlook on life generally.

 It can also strengthen your immune system, maintain bone strength, and manage cholesterol.  Examples of exercise are walking, gardening, cycling, swimming, dancing, stretching, yoga, boxing, and tai chi.

Relaxation

Reduces stress and improves the quality of life. Examples of stress reducers are meditation, yoga, going to bed on time, and delegating tasks to others.

In general it is good to ask for help, have a back-up plan, and find some time for yourself. Remember how important you are, join a support group, and think of what you are grateful for every day.